Adding to the Darth Vader shrine

The world seems nonexistant today. There’s no one around on ICQ or IRC. There’s no one hanging out in my building’s back yard. I’m sure if I left the apartment and went out to the street, there would be all sorts of people, but for now it feels as though it’s just me, the cat, and a groggy Jay.

Jay was up all last night trying to mediate some sort of argument between people in my CS clan. I woke up at 7:30 in the morning and asked him why he hadn’t come to bed yet. I was a bit upset, because when he’s up all night, that means he’ll sleep all day (or most of it,) and Saturday is one of my days off (the other being Sunday, now that I’m not working retail I have a normal work-week.) I don’t like spending my days off by myself when I could be doing stuff with him.

So anyhow, I woke up and asked him what was going on. He told me about the argument and how he’s been working on fixing it or something, and then he asked me who’s in charge anymore. I thought about it for a minute and realized that, with the main guy who used to sort of be in charge acting so weird lately, it’s pretty much fallen to Jay. It was a dumb argument, too. Ahh well, at least it wasn’t my job to fix it. I haven’t been up for much mediating lately.

I’m still in a bit of shock over the new job… not that I didn’t think I’d be able to do it, but just the fact that I’m not quite sure exactly what I’ll have to be doing, and I know that the last person to do this job got fired for doing ‘outside projects’ on company time. I almost feel like I have to walk on eggshells for a little while because of that. But hey, as of Monday I’m a Project Co-ordinator, and I’ll have my own cards and phone extension and everything…

AND! the bestest thing about yesterday (followed closely by X-men, which was a great movie,) is that I finally found my Darth Vader Pez dispenser for my Darth Shrine at work!! Yay!!!!! (it’s always the little things that make me happiest…)


  • magicwoman

    July 15, 2000 at 12:42 pm


    Once again, I hear you Jenny. I absolutely go mad when I wake up in the middle of the night (say 3:00AM) and David is staring intently at the computer screen. Then wake up again around 5:00AM and he is still on the computer. He definitely doesn’t understand how it affects our relationship at all. He doesn’t sleep all day – he just sleeps for about three or four hours and then is up for the day. I get home around 6:00PM and he is cranky, grouchy and irritable (and he doesn’t think he is!! argh!). Then around 7:00PM or 8:00PM he takes a mini cat nap (ten minutes or less) and he is ready then to stay up all night again.

    He made me a promise last weekend that he was going to start sleeping the same time I did so we could get in sync. Well, it hasn’t happened – not one day all week. Oh, yeah – one day – and he fell asleep around 10:00PM – which is worse than staying up all night. His sleep pattern cuts into our time together and affects his personality – wihch sucks! Thursday and Friday he stayed up all night. Now it is Saturday and he is cranky (once gain he doesn’t think so).

    I left the house to go downtown to walk around and to use the computer at work – just to get away from him being cranky. He is too tired too to go to a movie – he doesn’t want to do anything except veg. Well, after me working all week – vegging is OK for a small amount of the time – but I want to do things with him.

    All this in turn is making me naggy (which I have never been like I am now), cranky and irritable. When you put both of us together with the same levels of crankiness – it is not a pretty picture. I honestly don’t know what to do anymore. I think I have been terribly patient and tried to be understanding – but I can’t be affected like this and still do a good job at work. I find my mind wandering and I lose track of what’s going on with my projects – not a good sign and all of this is due to my lack of sleep and interupted sleep during the night (because the computer is shinning and because he is up and moving about the house and he has the stereo on – low of course).

    Ick – what to do?

    • Jenny Lee Silver

      July 15, 2000 at 1:15 pm

      Re: Men!

      I know what you mean about the naggy thing… the last thing I want to be, ever, is a nagging bitch, and yet that seems the only way to get things done sometimes. I have to remind and remind and remind, and still things don’t get done. He promised to do dishes, I reminded him a few times, and then I quit reminding him and left them for a month. They were really quite nasty, and I hated living like that, but I was trying to prove a point or something…. it never did get proven, I finally ended up doing the dishes myself this week. *sigh* It’s all so frustrating.

      • magicwoman

        July 15, 2000 at 1:24 pm

        Re: Men!

        David is supposed to be washing dishes while I am out. I think it might happen since he was filling the sink when I left.

        But I have read all the “advice” books on how to get your man to help out around the house and none of them work. I have tried the no-washing dishes method several times (thinking once probably wasn’t enough to get my point across). I have left them for a month, a week, several days – nothing works. He just doesn’t get it that he needs to help with the housework too. Actually I think sometimes he does and he just doesn’t want to do it and therefore doesn’t.

        I think it would be a lot easier to just help out and then the relationship would be much smoother – but that is the part he definitely doesn’t get. Because when I am feeling overwhelmed by work, housework, etc. – I definitely am not in tune with his moods. Ick again!

        He has talked about getting a job – part time at that – and I think that would help. And no, he doesn’t help around the house because he is feeling down because of his job situation – he was like this when he had a job.

        Oh, well . . . I am just going to enjoy the gorgeous day we are having here in Minneapolis. . .Hope you are able to do the same.