I talked to my stepmother on the phone about a week or so ago. She wanted my new address. I don’t much like talking to her on the phone… or talking to her at all. Every time I talk to her, she tells me how much they miss seeing me and how she wishes we could all be a family and when will I have time to come to Ottawa to get together with them and underneath all that I can almost feel her saying why are you ruining the image of a wonderful family that I try to keep together?? She’s still in denial and thinks that everything would be okay if I just came back to visit and made up with my father. Whatever… she doesn’t get it, she probably never will, and there’s nothing I can do about that – I can’t cut her off like I did the father, because I still want to talk to my little brother & sister, and she’s probably the only way I can contact them half the time. I think she’s scared to let them come visit me, too… just in case I tell them evil stories about their dad or something.
She’s probably right. I’m willing to bet neither she nor the father have mentioned it over dinner or anything. “Why doesn’t Jenny visit?” “Oh, she doesn’t want to be withing a 100 km radius of your father.”